I want to be happy man.

It’s been a while since I laughed till my tummy hurts. I measure my happiness by how often, loud and freely I am able to laugh on a daily basis. And for each of us how we measure happiness differs. Recently I have been feeling that my happiness is decreasing. …

Finding The Perfect Partner

First, you know there is no such thing as perfect, right? Of course we all have tastes and preferences and what we gravitate toward, what we find sexy and attractive, from the external to the internal, from body types to personality to confidence and emotional intelligence and so on and …

Men Want In A Relationship

Open any fashion magazine and you’ll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get it. But there’s rarely a space for men to express their relationship needs. And women need to know. So let’s create that space. Here. Now. Maybe it can be the …

How do you know when you love someone?

I used to believe that love was a light switch. Something flicks on. You get an overwhelming sensation. It hits you like a bag of bricks. Or a strong arrow. When you know, you know. Right? Not so much. After 38 years and an expired marriage, I don’t see love …

The letters I used to write to those who broke my heart.

I used to write letters. To my family, to my friends. Mostly to my boyfriends and ‘not-boyfriends’ — to those who broke my heart. I wrote them as a way to find some security and confidence amongst all the vulnerability in my relationships. They were basically a journal addressed to the relevant …

When Your Relationship Becomes More About Toleration Than Love

When I’m coaching couples, the first thing I ask them is their intention for the time we have together. If both people truly desire to work through whatever issue they’re having, I know we’re going to have a successful outcome. When 2 people want the same thing, it’s rather easy …